What do you WANT to do?

You guys, I had my mind blown yesterday, and I have been obsessing about it ever since. I was innocently sitting in the closing lunch of a conference that I had been working at when the speaker said something profound. He said, “What do you WANT to do? Not what do you think that you CAN do. Not what you think that you SHOULD do. What do you WANT?” This may seem really basic and obvious to some people, but I have not thought about that in a really long time. I am talking at least two years.

Instead, I have been answering that question from a place of CAN. I could do this. I could do that. Opportunities feel really limiting and not very exciting when you put them in could terms. Coulds are two seconds from shoulds, and should usually mean chores, which are never WANT to dos but HAVE to dos. And man, have to dos totally suck, don’t they? I have to do laundry. I have to pay my bills. I have to go to the grocery store. (Insert your own here.) I don’t want my life to be full of have to dos without any want to dos.

What do you want? WHAT DO YOU WANT? I am finally in a space to answer that question without feeling completely overwhelmed or burdened by the enormity of the concept. It’s really liberating. You should try it yourself. It feels really empowering to say, “This is what I want out of my life.” And this idea will seep into every facet of your life, including your sexuality.

So what do you want in your life?

- Lauren, Seeker of WANTS not CANS